Waiting to See Red


This post about about menstruation.  You have been warned.

I haven’t had a period in almost 100 weeks.  That is about 24 months or 2 years.  Everett is 14 months old and I was pregnant for 41.5 weeks.  Before that I had 2 cycles and went 1 year and 5 days without a period while breastfeeding Fletcher plus the 38 weeks while I was pregnant.  200 weeks without a period from the past 4 years.  I’m not complaining, I think that is pretty awesome and that I’m lucky.  Breastfeeding works to keep menstruation at bay for me but it doesn’t for everyone.

But.  (Yes, there is a but.)  I’m reaching the stage of paranoia.  Every twinge of the abdomen, every uncomfortable feeling, every back ache makes me run to the bathroom expecting to see red.  Usually I chant to myself while pulling down my pants “please no red, please no red, please no red” and sigh with relief when I see none.

I would happily breastfeed for another year or more if it came with a guarantee of a life without periods.  In fact, I am one handed typing this while breastfeeding my 14 month old and bouncing him to sleep on my yoga ball.  I haz talent.  One reason I’m sure my period hasn’t returned is that we are still nursing on demand 24/7.  I don’t keep track but I would guess that Everett nurses 4-12 times a day and 2-4 times at night.

Once my lovely lady returns I will be attempting to use the Diva Cup.  After starting to use cloth diapers on Fletcher I learned about the wonderful world of reusable menstrual products.  There are cloth options for Moms (called Mama Cloth) and those come in a variety of absorbency levels (just like disposable Maxi Pads) and even panty liners.  Because I was a tampon girl before learning about a reusable feminine care I will be giving the reusable menstrual cup a go.

My opinion on the Diva Cup went from the initial “Ewww” to the curious “How do you get it IN there, won’t you have to put your hands in that thing….” to “OK, I’m intrigued, tell me more” to the research phase and the “Hmmm… that is kinda cool.” and finally to the “I’m gonna buy one.  This is better than disposable tampons and will save money and waste.”

Unlike my environmental drive to use cloth diapers the deciding factor to use a Diva Cup was really based on what using chemical and paper products INSIDE my body was doing to it.  I have yet to actually go out and purchase a Diva Cup because I am trying not to tempt fate.  Part of me would like to be prepared and the other is too superstitious.  If I have one SHE will finally come back.

If I had the sanity for it I am pretty sure I would just keep getting pregnant and breastfeeding.  That is how much I hate periods.

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  • KatieC

    There are several different kinds of menstrual cups out there besides the diva cup. So if you find you don’t like it for any reason, there are other types to try! I don’t remember where, because it has been several years since I researched and bought one (I have the LadyCup-Love it!), but I found someone that had tried and reviewed all the different kinds! I will see if I can find it and post back here with the link if I can.

  • KatieC

    http://archive.tcoyf.com/forums/t/1023.aspx. This has a wealth of info, plus links to other websites with more info on different kinds of cups!

  • Yolandaalbritton

    Your post make me laugh! What is a Diva Cup?

    • Anonymous

      It is a reusable Mentsrual Cup, similar to how a diaphram is inserted, that hold the liquid. You dump it out and reuse it.

  • Masha

    I’m sure you’ll love it! I’ve only had two periods since getting pregnant/birth/breastfeeding, it started when the little guy was just about 13 months old. Serendipitously,  Baby Steals had one on sale just as my first day of my first period started. So I went for it. After having to use tampons for the first ‘red’ (it took a while for the shipping to Canada), I was ready for my DivaCup. For the second ‘red’ I used the Diva Cup. It took no time flat to figure it out and was the most comfortable product I have ever used. It doesn’t dry you out, no itch, no string, no leak, and lasts a LOT longer before you have to dump the contents. I think I’m just about ready to talk my friends’ ears off about this.

  • Amy

    I was unlucky in that bf didn’t keep ‘her’ away. I do however love mumma cloth and my cup – Lunette so can’t comment on the Diva specifically.  I found it weird to use disposables on me after deciding to use cloth with the children. 
    Have found my periods are shorter and less painful since ditching tampons 6 months ago. Have spoken to others who’ve found the same so hope it works 
    out for you.

  • Jen H

    Jealous that yours has held off so long! I bf on demand 6-12 times a day and 2-6 times at night, but SHE came back 7 mo pp anyway. 🙁 oh well. I’ll still be extended bfing.

    • Jen H

      And I’m interested in mama cloth. Hoping to have some put together for her next visit at the end of the month!

      • Anonymous

        Are you making them? That is awesome!

  • As the non-carrying momma I didn’t earn a break from my flow (my wife carried and is nursing our beautiful son). While doing all of the research about CDing I began to feel like a hypocrite having a fluffy baby and using sposie menstrual care products. I looked up the diva cup and luna pads and then searched on here for more info. I have to say you have never let me down when I’m looking for answers! Thank you for posting about this and thank you to all of the other commenters who have weighed in on the diva cup. I think my scales are tipping toward giving it a go. Thanks again!

  • kimberly

    I love my diva!!! The fact you can wear it for so long before changing it. No changing tampons in dirty bathrooms every few hours. I can do all that stuff in my own clean private bathroom.

  • Desireegraham1

    Loved your post. I was just saying that to my husband I want our next two babies to be back to back just to avoid having a period. Heck labor pains were easier to handle than menstrual cramps..

  • Manda Dangerfield

    Yep, I love not having a period, too. I got pregnant the first time in Feb. 2006 and have had (I think) only 8 cycles since then. I’m breastfeeding baby #3. I like the cloth pads and cloth postpartum pads I’ve made, but am also interested in trying the Diva cup (can’t feel it, no using the washing machine).