“But you’ll quit in the first few weeks so I got you disposables as a back-up!”
How many moms have heard this? As frustrating as it can be to have a family member or friend dismiss something that means a great deal to you, it can be even more soul crushing to have them doubt your ability to follow-through with a task. I too was told I would quit, though no one bought disposables for my baby shower in 2008 they didn’t buy cloth diapers either. (PS, did I show them OR WHAT?!)
Today not only can you register for cloth diapers at an online retailer that specializes in the product (may I suggest Kelly’s Closet?) you can add them to your registry at places like Babies ‘R Us, Buy Buy Baby, and Target! Even Amazon.com has a registry and yes, they sell cloth too.
Is there a secret to actually getting the cloth diapers you’ve registered for? No. Absolutely not. Every person and family will be different. You know your circle of friends best, not to mention there may be cultural reasons behind purchases and traditions. The consensus out there today is that it is still hard to get modern cloth diapers at a baby shower.
Add cloth diapers to your registry
My first tip to getting cloth diapers at your baby shower is to register for them! You can’t get what you don’t ask for. For most of the people shopping you are speaking another language. Older family members recognize the term but are confused by the product (it has snaps? Where are the pins? Why don’t these need a cover?) Rather than expecting them to figure it out themselves just register for exactly what you want.
Talk about cloth diapers
Open a dialogue with your close friends and family. If cloth diapering is something you are committed to then let them know that. You may or may not want disposables (hey, they can be handy once in a while) but if you are hoping to get a lot of help with your stash it may be worthwhile to mention how much you’re looking forward to using cloth diapers and WHY. A subtle hint now and then never killed anyone.
Keep it Simple
Keep your registry realistic and basic. By paring down to the essentials (does your baby really need that plush cotton robe and slippers or the decorative giant giraffe?) your guests will find it easier to shop for you and their eyes won’t glaze over with a 5 page print-out at Target. Shooting
fish diapers in a barrel is easier when the barrel is smaller. This tactic will benefit your overall as well so put some thought into what you really need and want- be a great baby registry editor.
Break it up
Register for individual items or smaller packages, not the full set. If you only add a larger “buy it all at once” package like those that cost several hundred dollars, you lower your chances of getting any diapers at all. Either someone buys the whole thing or no one does. By letting people pick a diaper or two or an accessory off the list you can at least hope to add a few diapers to your baby’s stash.
Spell it Out
Even though a gift is a gift I believe to some degree a mother’s registry should be followed. It is customary to register for weddings and baby showers and in the case of baby showers, parents know not only what they need, but what they will use. This is why you may want to be more than subtle about your desire to cloth diaper, especially if you are on a tight budget and are relying on the baby shower to help you get started.
You can even try including a not-so-subtle poem in your invitations (or use these FREE invitations for cloth diapering moms from Cloth Diaper Geek!)
Or ask for a Gift Card
If you know your friends and family well enough to foresee their reluctance about buying cloth diapers you may want to skip registering for them directly and instead ask for gift cards to places that sell diapers online or in store. To some, this is considered tacky (asking for gift cards) but again, this is your life and you understand the rules of your circle. Another option is to collect funds in a jar to go towards the diapers at the baby shower itself.
Have you gone through registering for cloth diapers and getting them (or not getting them) at your baby shower? Share your experience in the comments!