Menstrual Cups: What Every Woman Should Know

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 After publishing my post about how much I loved my Diva Cup I was surprised how many of you wanted more information about menstrual cups.  At the time I wasn’t prepared to answer many of the questions because I had so recently started using one myself.  Since then I have tried a few more brands and have had enough time to get very comfortable with using a cup.  Enough so that I took out my video camera and filmed myself inserting one…………………………. into a wine glass.  I hope at least a few of you were shocked for a millisecond on that one.  In all honesty using a cup can change your life for the better.  All women should know this is an option, especially teenagers who have decades of periods to look forward to.  This video will answer all of your questions about how and why menstrual cups are the greatest things since sliced bread.  If not I have some more information for you to read in this post and links to even more helpful resources.   You can also get a ton more menstrual cup information from Put a Cup In It.  

There are several brands of menstrual cups on the market even beyond the five featured in the video.  I showed you the Diva Cup, Lunette Cup, Keeper Cup, Fleur Cup, and the Moon Cup.  Other brands to consider are Meluna (the most customizable with options for soft/med/hard and different stems), LenaCup, and Yuuki.  Another option is the Softcup which is not reusable and sits inside the vagina in an entirely different way.  You can find a chart comparing several of these brands at Put a Cup In It.

Choosing a Cup

Choosing a menstrual cup can seem as overwhelming as picking a cloth diaper system.  Unlike diapers for your baby it makes more sense to pick one to try and hope it works, then if you find it isn’t the best fit for you, use what you know about the first cup you tried and work based off of your likes and dislikes to pick the next one.  For example, I started using a Diva Cup with great success with only one complaint- it felt a TEENY bit too long and without getting a very perfect insertion I would need to remove and replace it or else I would feel the end of it- even with removing the stem.  Knowing this I looked at other cups and read reviews and experiences from other women who, with the same issue, tried a Lunette cup which is slightly shorter.  I still prefer the Diva Cup and Lunette to the Keeper cup, mostly because they are more flexible.  I haven’t tried any others just yet.  If you are wondering if your vagina is short you can reach in; if you can reach your cervix easily with a finger then you might want to try a shorter cup or possibly use a Size 1, although most women who have given birth would be best to start with a size 2.

Other factors to consider are how soft or hard the cup is.  The Keeper (and also the new Lena Cup) is firmer which can be better for women with stronger pelvic muscles or who have not given birth.  With the Meluna you can choose from different styles that would be a softer cup, regular, or hard.  With cups averaging about $30 each most people won’t buy multiples to try so being a vigilant researcher and informed consumer as well as learning more about your own body (even your vagina and your pelvic muscles) will save you money in the long run.

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Update: Years after writing this post and after gaining more experience with cups a friend and I created a quiz that will help you better choose a cup.  As noted, it can be hard to pick without having ever tried one but this quiz has been very effective in guiding new and experienced users toward their perfect cup.  After reading this post please head over and try for yourself!

 

 

Using the Cup

A cup has a learning curve but most women will get the hang of it within 2-4 cycles.  Expect to have some amusing moments in the bathroom as you transport back to the first time you used a tampon and studied the booklet showing a line drawing of a teen going “Captain Morgan” over a toilet seat.  Seeing a cup you might expect that it is too large to insert and be comfortable but remember that you will be folding it, and even though it still has a wider circumference than a tampon it isn’t by too much and it is much smaller than a vaginal ultrasound wand and *ahem* other things.  You can find several different ways to fold a cup which is handy if you try one fold and it doesn’t work, try another!

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Benefits of Using the Cup

There are so many benefits to switching to a cup.  I have my reasons, in order of importance.

Comfort- When I wear a cup I cannot tell it is there.  There are no strings, no weird cramps, and no pads that can be very uncomfortable.  I have forgotten I was on my period several times.  Some women report fewer menstrual cramps and a lighter or more regular flow after using the cup for a while.  Unlike tampons and pads, cups do not pull any moisture away with them and only hold your flow.
Less changing- I used to change tampons at least 4-6 times a day.  They just weren’t comfortable to wear any longer than that no matter how heavy my period.  I can go all day without changing my cup and usually change first thing in the morning and then before bed.  You could go an entire day of work or school without having to rummage for a tampon at the bottom of your purse in the public restroom.
Less waste- Since switching I have not purchased or wasted any more plastic packaged tampons.  No more applicators, packaging, or actual feminine products being tossed or flushed.
No more chemicals- Feminine hygiene products are exposing you to more than just cotton.
Stop the midnight Target run and save money- I haven’t had an “oh shit” moment when starting my period since using a cup because my cup is always right where I left it.  Running out of tampons and making my husband run to the store late at night is no longer an event we face.  If I only had one cup it would have paid for itself twice over since starting to use it.  Maybe even more.  You’ll need to replace your cup every few years but that is nothing like buying a box or more of disposable products each month.

 

Troubleshooting the Cup

Common problems when inserting the cup include the cup unfolding too early, the cup not unfolding when already in place, and the cup not creating a seal that can lead to leaks.  From personal experience I use a “two-handed” method to place the cup inside since my biggest problem has been the cup unfolding too early.  I hold it together with two hands, as I place it in I remove one set and keep the other on the end until far enough that I can let it open.  Twisting the cup will help if you have issues with it not unfolding and will help with your seal.  Trying new ways to fold the cup before insertion can affect how it goes in.  Each woman will find a fold that works best for them.

Other potential problems with the cup involve it sliding down which could mean the size is too small for you or that you need a softer or harder cup.  Sliding can also be a sign that you didn’t get a proper seal and it is moving down because it wasn’t placed in properly.

Leaking is also normally related to how it was placed and has little to do with your flow.  Most cups have ample room for an average flow.  On your heaviest day you might need to change an extra time or two than normal.

Getting over the ICK factor and “Owning it”

Cups admittedly involve more “face to face” time with your lady parts than tampons or pads.  Tampon applicators mean that even though you are inserting something you don’t have to touch it.  People- there are sinks.  Also, that vagina belongs to you and touching it every once in a while is OK!  You won’t go elbow deep, but you will have to go further than when using a tampon.  In reality it isn’t that far.  I just want to be real here and tell people that you will have to “go there” because everyone should know what they are getting into when switching to a cup.  There are good reasons to be familiar with your lady parts, how strong your muscles are or aren’t, and what is actually happening during your period.  You never know when this information will help you when a health issue arises.  Own it.

Where to buy?

You can find cups on websites like Amazon.com or buy from smaller businesses locally or online.  Many cloth diaper stores carry them like Kelly’s Closet and Diaper Junction. I’ve included affiliate links in this paragraph only for anyone interested in making a purchase after watching such a fabulous video!  A small percentage of purchases will go back to Dirty Diaper Laundry and might just reimburse me for the 500 (okay, 5) cups I had to buy to make the video!

All products used in this video were purchased by me.  No promotional products or monetary compensation was received and all opinions expressed in this post are my own.  

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  • TrailmixyMel C

    This was by far the best and most helpful information I’ve seen on cups. Thank you! I’m curious to know if anyone has had a CONE or LEEP done on their cervix and successfully used a cup, and if so, which one? I’ve had 3 vaginal births and a CONE and LEEP, so I’m trying to figure out which to try. I’m only 2 weeks postpartum, and breastfeeding, so I probably have some time to learn and try the cups before actually using them. I’m so glad you made this video. I’d love to win your giveaway

  • Jackie

    Your readers might be interested in this easy to understand menstrual cup comparison chart. Only the top brands!

    http://reusablemenstrualcup.com/menstrual-cup-comparison-chart/

  • Wendy

    I need support. 2nd day using Diva Cup and I’m not happy but I want it to work SO MUCH! Where can I go for updated/constant/female discussion about these?

    • kimrosas

      It’s not going to always be perfect the first day or even the first cycle. It takes a lot of trial and error. I would look up “menstrual cups” on Facebook and join a private group for support.
      Please excuse typos and brevity. Sent from my iPhone

  • Pat Lyndon

    No thanks. These WON’T work if you have had heavy periods like I have had for years. Including huge blood clots the size of golf balls coming out. It would be a horrible mess to take out, and just imagine having to do this in a public restroom and then having to clean up the huge mess, not to mention wiping a public toilet and the floor. That thing would fill up in about 5 minutes with me… Not. Gonna. Work. Thankful I had an ablation several years ago. That cut it down tremendously. Now I don’t have to worry about stuffing any foreign object up in there.

    • kimrosas

      I don’t believe I said it will work for 100% of people menstruating. It does work for heavy bleeders and even clotted a but some more than others. If it doesn’t work for you that’s fine but don’t poo poo the idea for every person who could benefit from it. We’re not all equal and not all menstrual options work for everyone.
      Please excuse typos and brevity. Sent from my iPhone

  • Sarah

    I wish these worked for me! On light flow days they’re good, but on a heavy day I can fill the cup all the way to the top in only a couple of hours and then it starts leaking due to overflow. Just one clot fills my Diva Cup halfway.

    • kimrosas

      I wish they did too! Unfortunately they won’t work for everyone. I wonder if you have considered another alternative like the sponge?

  • bara

    Sounds like inserting a diaphragm. I had no problem with those. Now I too old for periods (thank GOD!!).

  • ABabyBaay

    I’m almost 22. and I just found out about these ! Ever since I had my daughter tampons have hurt me so so bad ! But thanks to googling and finding your blog , cups are definitely my new thing !! Where can I buy them ?

    • kimrosas

      Checkout the shop on putacupinit.com. 🙂

  • Jackie

    Lots more information about menstrual cups here, including the ultimate comparison chart: http://reusablemenstrualcup.com/

  • diva cups

    I have been researching over the cup since a very long time and now I finally have found the perfect answers to all my doubts. Thank You.

  • Johanna Berg

    My cup doesn’t stay in place, it slowly moves down and I have no idea on how to put it in any differently. I have tried origami, 7 and pinch down/back fold – the C is not working for me 🙁 I have watched all your films and I try to follow them 100% but it still doesn’t sit where it’s supposed to I guess :/

    • Mounika R

      This happens when the position of cervix is low or bit bigger in size so it moves down. The best option is to try for different size and for sure it will work.

  • Carmen

    Has anyone had the problem with the Diva cup going inside too deep? I have a hard time finding the tip, and then pulling it out, since it gets slippery, and it takes me a while to grasp it. By the end, half my hand is covered in blood and it’s awkward to wash if I’m in public. Any advice would be helpful!

  • Sofia

    A few thing I wish I had read before I used the cup and figured things out myself.
    So using a menstrual cup for the first time is no easy thing. It needs a lot of practice. Then once you have inserted it after many attempts, it might get lost in your vagina. By saying lost, I mean it won’t definitely go and travel throughout your cervix, but it may go further up your vagina, so when you want to take it out, you might not feel the end of the cup unless you push it down with your vagina muscles.

    Second, getting the cup out of the vagina needs to be done once your vagina muscles are not too relaxed or too strained. For example, when I wake up in the morning, I can hardly pull the cup out, since my muscles are too relaxed… Also when I have very long walks, I again can hardly push it out, since my muscles are probably too strained.

    Third, once when I tried to push it out in the morning, before breakfast, I felt very weak and my pressure went down, because I hadn’t eaten anything. So the vagina muscle work turned to be exhausting for my body. This can of course be a very personal thing, but it is good to know all the possible scenarios.

    So ever since, I had to develop a new schedule of cleaning my menstrual cup, that differed from the schedule of changing my pads prior to that. For example, I prefer cleaning the cup after I have some meal, or before going out for long walks, etc.

    I hope this will be helpful. Good luck!

  • Disgruntled cup user

    I’m on my third cycle with the lunette cup and I’m very close to going back to organic all cotton tampons. The main reason is leakage, I either can’t get it to pop open or it’s just not staying in place. I put it in in the morning and walk or sit and stand up and suddenly have a heavy leak (on my moderate/heavy day), I don’t see the point if its going to leak, because that means I need pads as back up, which defeats the purpose of reusing (not ready to try cloth pads). Second it’s messy, I’m on the go a lot and and usually cleaning it out in public restrooms, my hand gets really messy/bloody! Any suggestions are welcome!

    • Tammy Judd

      If it won’t stay in place, then that means it hasn’t sealed right. The best way I know to pop them open, is to insert them halfway, twist it around, then while you bare down, push it upward. It’s also possible than you need a bigger size.

  • Roxxy169

    I wanted to say, I bought both sizes on ebay for a couple of bucks each. VERY cheap compared to north America prices. And free shipping and handling.
    Also, I haven’t started my period yet but couldn’t wait to try it. I am a large lady (just in case anyone was worried about their size impeding their ability) and I had no problem inserting it high enough, however I don’t know if it is popping open. I felt it “pop” as I was pulling it out. I hear a twist is the fix?

    • Tammy Judd

      I’d be careful about buying the cheap ones. You don’t know what the quality is,and what’s worse is your probably putting money into China, which is a bit counterproductive if your getting a cup for environmental reasons.

  • Tammy Judd

    I feel rather insecure about something and could use some reassurance and an honest opinion: Am I some sort of weirdo, or does anyone else like to collect these things? Not as a review, but out of a weird and intense fascination for them? I have collected close to 15 now, and even though it’s been a bit expensive, it’s not any different then guys who collect cars, or gas powered planes. WDYT

    • kimrosas

      Not strange at all! Lots of people enjoy trying brands and seeing what they like about each.
      Please excuse typos and brevity. Sent from my iPhone