There are some people that won’t talk about certain when it comes to potty training. I’m not one of those people.
My youngest son potty trained a few months ago and for the most part it was a very easy process. Then, things started changing. He started having frequent accidents, both pee and poop, and we were on the verge on considering diapers again. I was so DONE with washing 5 pairs of underwear, shorts, and sheets a day.
The pee accidents stopped again and he started going on the potty for pees but the poops in the pants kept happening. He would walk up to me, smile, and say “poop” while pointing to his pants. That shit is NOT funny so it was a bit hard to keep my cool. I wanted to scream at him “why the hell do you keep pooping in your pants” but I would breathe deeply and say “You had an accident?! Poop goes in the potty, not your pants. Let’s go clean you up.”
Part of me is thrilled he is pooping, pants, floor, diaper, whatever. After almost a year of dealing with his withholding issues and being his “poop doula” whenever it comes easily and pain free I’m thrilled. The other part, notsomuch.
So what do you do when your child prefers to poop anywhere but the toilet? I’v heard of toddlers who demand diapers to poop in, or who go into a corner to secretly poop. It seems to be a thing, right?
When Everett does poop on the potty, either by asking to get on and go, or when it just happens when he is on the toilet to go pee, it is like a straight up awards ceremony. I’m clapping, screaming, dancing, and waving my arms like a mad woman. It is like the potty dance on steroids. He can’t get enough praise for doing his duty on the toilet.
We marvel at the size, the length, the smell…. yeah… it is gross…. but my little boy does take pride in his poops. The bigger, the better. Though he also marvels at the “baby” poops. Even big brother comes in and makes a big deal of it, which Everett loves.
Making a child feel ashamed that they are having accidents is definitely not the way to go. As hard as it can be not to me mad when you find a toddler running around with poops dropping out of his underwear and having to slowly retrace his steps to make sure all poops are found, it won’t help to yell or punish.
This week we’ve had a good couple of days following last week and the many poop accidents, including the three on the floor on the carpet in his room. I think we are getting through the accident phase and he is back to notifying me of when he has to poop and he seems to be looking forward to it.
I think we’ve had it easy compared to some kids I’ve heard about going through the same problem. If you have an experience with it please share how you overcame it in the comments. It may help others reading this!