I’m en Route to San Diego but my heart is in Syracuse NY

When this post publishes I will probably be a few thousand feet in the *hopefully* blue sky on the way to San Diego for BlogHer ’11.  The irony for me during this year’s World Breastfeeding Week is that for half of it I’ll be on the other side of the country and away from my nursling.

140.25 Ounces of Blood, Sweat, and Tears

As a psuedo Attached Parent this is a logistical and emotional nightmare. I pumped virtually every single day for 30 days to make sure my baby would have enough of my milkshake for 4 days.  I was aiming for the low number of 100 but I made it to 140.25 ounces of liquid gold.  It would have been 144.25 ounces but one of my bags mysteriously leaked out.  I may have cried.  I seperated my milk into freezer bags with about 29 ounces in each bag, one per day.  And then there is another bag with 25 ounces extra in case he needs it.  I got that tip from a Twitter user and it is a fabulous one!

Everett has always taken a bottle so thankfully that is not an issue.  My first son never took a bottle, ever.  This meant I was never away from him more than 2 hours at a time for the entire first year and beyond).  Still I have never left Fletcher for more than 8 hours and I’ve really never left him overnight either.  I even gave birth at home to avoid that for crying outloud!

I trust that my chunky monkey will take his bottles and even eat solids to stay alive.  Thank Goodness for small miracles.

My heart

But here is the kicker: he sleeps in bed with me every night and has since he was born.  Sure he spent a few hours here and there in his hammock, Mamaroo, or crib- but the majority of his nights are in the crook of my arm.  He has slept wonderfully since day one.  He sleeps all night starting at 7:30- 8:30 pm until 6:30- 8:00 am.  He wakes to eat then turns his head and falls back asleep.  I can count the number of times I’ve had to get out of bed to get him back to sleep on my fingers and toes (he is a baby afterall).  If it weren’t for co-sleeping I know I would have lost a lot more sleep.  That is all well and good until you take me out of the equation.

I need your help! What have you done when you leave your co-sleeping, Exclusively Breastfed baby home with Daddy? Did Daddy sleep with the baby in your bed?  Did he rock the baby back to sleep each time they woke and put them back in the crib?  Did the baby demand a middle of the night bottle?  I am so clueless…

My husband is a deep sleeper and refuses to sleep with Everett since he is so young.  He will sleep with Fletcher when the rarity occurs that he ends up in our bed.

I’m hoping you, my wonderful and knowledgable readers, will offer your nuggets of wisdom to my husband.  I have instructed him to read this post and comment/ ask questions if he needs to. A part of me thinks he has no idea what he is getting into but the other part is confident he can handle it.  He has really grown into a wonderful father.  I don’t think I would have considered this when my first son was 9 months old even if he did take a bottle.  That is probably more to do with my first time mom jitters than anything but I definitely see how much hubby has grown in the 2.5 years he has been a dad.

I’m leaving him with a long list of cloth diaper washing instructions, breastmilk storage, heating, and handling instructions, the boy’s (general) nap and bedtime schedule, and a house full of clean clothes/diapers.  I’ll also be leaving him with my Boba for Everett.  It is my manliest and best fitting carrier for him.

If there is any silver lining to being away from a nursing baby for 4 days during World Breastfeeding Week it is that I will be able to donate my pumped milk to another mother through Eats on Feets.  I’ve never donated milk before but I am thrilled that my liquid gold won’t be going down a drain.

Wish me luck on my first trip away from my family (and hopefully last for a long time.)

A HUGE THANK YOU to Swaddlebees and Boba for their generous sponsorship that is getting me to BlogHer and to the other companies making my boobies weigh less, look perkier, and be more productive!  Much love coming at ya!
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  • Jan

    My DH sleeps with the babies, they end up smelling like his armpit because that’s where they always end up but it has always worked out just fine. They know there’s no milk and so they don’t expect it. If baby normally bursts to sleep in your bed then cuddling in bed with the bottle might be the best bet (however bad for thier teeth it’s only for a few days) then I would expect to have to get out of bed at 6:30 for the morning feeding.
    At first DH was very nervous having a tiny baby in our bed but after the first night he realized that even though he normally sleeps like the dead he is instictively aware of where the baby is.

    • Tara

      Same here Lil sleeps best with me.But shes been in her crib since about 6 months (17 months old now) and my husband is the heaviest sleeper,unless she makes a peep.He hears her roll over for christs sake lol. With your little man I would give him the bottle till he falls asleep just like the last post. And something that smells like you (tshirt,blanket etc) will help him eat & sleep.

  • Heather B.

    Don’t try to do it like Mommy. You’ll do it “wrong.” Find your own Daddy routine/rhythm that works for you and baby. You can dew it! And yes, I meant that as a Rob Schnieder reference…

    I’ll be going to an LLL conference next month for three days and already having panic attacks. You’re so not alone. 🙂

    • Anonymous

      I like that 🙂 I know he does things much differently than I do so I’m hoping he succeeds in keeping them alive and happy, even if the house is a wreck when I get home!
      Please excuse typos and brevity. Sent from my iPad

  • hi kim! i just realized that you live in cny and so do i! 🙂 haha, i’ve been reading ddl for a couple months now! so jealous you’re going to blogher, my lo and i will be at the big latch on at mother earth baby on saturday and i am super excited!

    i have my own dilemma, i’m my sister’s doula and she is due on monday, lo has been bf’d since birth and while she sttn in her own crib, she still nurses 5-6 times a day. so i’ve pumped (nothing close to 140+ oz though!) and i’m praying everything goes well when i drop her off at my mil’s! (if sis goes into labor during the day, during the week as dh is a hard working daddy!)

    when we co slept with lo, she would be in between dh and i, eventually he started sleeping in the living room bc lo and i like to splay out on the bed when we sleep. 🙂 lo never really slept with just hubby, but i imagine she would have woken up for at least 1 feeding during the night. just remind your hubby to take things 1 at a time and before he knows it, you’ll be home! good luck to hubby and have fun in sunny cali! 😀

    • Anonymous

      I always somehow miss The Big Latch On! Sounds like it is going to be a great event! I was told (and it worked great for me) to pump in the mornings. I could usually get 3-5 each morning from 1 or both. After a few days my body got used to that and I had 140 in 1 month.
      Good luck! She’ll probably be so busy she will not want to nurse any ways. I’m lucky that my husband took 2 days vaca so I could go to BlogHer!
      Please excuse typos and brevity. Sent from my iPad

  • Samantha Cadwalader

    We’ve just started a new routine now that I’m working an earlier shift. Daddy has to get up when I do and but our son on his chest in the armed chair. Once he goes back to sleep an daddy’s chest, everything is fine and they can lay back in bed. If he wakes up they have to go the process again. If he tries to stay in bed with DS when he starts to stir and look for mommy (eyes closed and rooting, so cute!) all bets are off and he is up for the day and wants a bottle. Getting him up and out of the bed, onto Daddy’s shoulder seems to remind him he is very well loved, but can’t have the booby. We’ve only been at it about 2 weeks, but it is working so far. (our son is almost 8 months)

  • Samantha Cadwalader

    We’ve just started a new routine now that I’m working an earlier shift. Daddy has to get up when I do and but our son on his chest in the armed chair. Once he goes back to sleep an daddy’s chest, everything is fine and they can lay back in bed. If he wakes up they have to go the process again. If he tries to stay in bed with DS when he starts to stir and look for mommy (eyes closed and rooting, so cute!) all bets are off and he is up for the day and wants a bottle. Getting him up and out of the bed, onto Daddy’s shoulder seems to remind him he is very well loved, but can’t have the booby. We’ve only been at it about 2 weeks, but it is working so far. (our son is almost 8 months)